Are you cronically failing to praise your team members for their good work, or do you find it difficult? This might seem not important to you, but it does has repercussions: it affects the morale of your people, their work performance and the relationship that they have with you.
Maybe the time has come for you to do something about it and create a healthy and dynamic atmosphere with your team.
Did you know that the reason of your non-expressive attitude might be hidden in your childhood, in the relationship with your parents? You might be not aware of it, but something happenend during your childhood or even before you were born – if your mother didn’t praise herself, she passed onto you feelings of unworthiness, of discomfort, a sense of inferiority, and so on – that is still affecting your behavior and attitudes. Perhaps your parents failed in recognizing your potential, your talents, or your achievements; or even if they did so they failed to express their recognition.
All this might seem not important to you as adult, but it has an impact on your emotional intelligence and so on your behavior and attitudes.
You can improve upon your relationships, communication, and feedback skills on your team’s performance by freeing yourself from your family’s toxic conditionings. This is a crucial step towards becoming a better leader.
Are you ready to uncover what is holding you back and gain your team’s trust, genuine respect and total commitment?
To achieve this, you can start with these three steps:
1. Identify the toxic elements that affect your attitude in the present. Perhaps it was a parent that always put you down, or failed to verbally appreciate your achievements; or maybe your parents did express their appreciation for your achievements, but uncosciously passed onto you their insecurities around this
2. Once you identified that toxic element passed onto you by your parent(s), take steps to defuse it. This is often easier said than done. Some people attempt to do it on their on, through meditation or other ways, but more often than not it helps to get the support of someone who is experienced in this area
3. Get out there and enjoy your newly found confidence and communicate openly with your team members – expressing both positive and negative feedback – because this is the only way they can truly improve
If you want to embark on a journey to become a better leader, contact me to find out how I can support you in this area.
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About the author
Elena Perella is NOT a therapist, a psychologist or a psychiatrist; she is a coach who focuses on helping clients indentify the real reasons behind their suffering and problems. Born and raised on the beautiful Mediterranean island of Sardinia, Elena is passionate about what she does, and with good reason. Elena coached herself through a severe depression, eating disorders and domestic violence and her experience has led her on a journey of discovery of how to break out all of these challenges. As a result she created Sentidu Life Coaching to help people experience their own transformation and break free in the areas they feel stuck.