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Eliminate the Source of Your Heartbreaks – How to Get Ready to Attract the Woman of Your Dreams

Activate Your Self Confidence - Elena Perella, Sentidu Life Coach
When a man experiences one heartbreak after another, he often tends to blame women for it. While it is true that there are many women who can't reciprocate love, generalizing and complaining doesn't help solve your problem.
What causes men to be often disappointed in romantic relationships? There is only one reason: your mother’s influence.

You might experience the negative influence of your mother if one or more of these describe you:

  • You feel lonely in your marriage or relationship
  • You have poor or difficult communication in your romantic relationship
  • You feel misunderstood
  • You don’t understand your partner’s behavior
  • You don’t trust her
  • You feel she doesn’t trust you
  • She is often like your mother (negatively speaking)
  • You feel limited, not free to grow and evolve
  • She always win and you submissively accept
  • You have a negative opinion of women in general

How can your mother negatively influence you?

Many mothers unknowingly pass on toxic energy to their children as a result of their unresolved childhood issues. These mothers had a visibly difficult childhood, or an apparently happy childhood that caused in them issues that they never resolved and that brought them (unconsciously) to live with a lack of self-love. If you are experiencing relationship troubles, it might be as a direct result of your mother’s unresolved childhood issues. While this might sound a bit harsh, the fact that you are having troubles with women is the proof. Whether your mother nurtured you or not when you were a child or whether you think she was “loving” or not, you’ve inherited her toxic emotional baggage.

This toxic emotional baggage manifests itself through attitudes ‒ which you are not always aware of ‒ that make you attract the wrong match or reject the right one.

Your mothers’ unresolved childhood issues form part of your family's toxic emotional inheritance ‒ a toxic legacy of emotions, thoughts, beliefs, inner conflicts, tendencies, and more, passed onto us by our families.

Yes, seemingly for many the father contributes to developing our dysfunctional relationships. Many grow up with a violent father who is abusing is spouse; so with a good reason you might say that the father is also responsible for damaging us. But, it was your mother who attracted this aggressive man into her life; therefore it is with her that all this toxicity started… and her mother, and her mother’s mother prior to that… and it is up to you to break this chain.

As disturbing as it might be to learn that parents’ unresolved childhood issues can have long-term consequences in the lives of their children, unfortunately this is most people’s reality. Just think of what harmony, reciprocal consideration, understanding, trust, respect, joy and partnership can bring into your relationship, and in the life of your own children. The good news is, this can be your reality.

Acknowledge the Real Cause of Your Dysfunctional Relationships

Acknowledging the real cause of your dysfunctional relationships is the first step. Then you can take the right actions to solve your problem.

Are you already doing something like meditating, exercising, repeating positive affirmations, etc.? wonderful, but it won’t help. These practices give you only temporary relief, create dependence, and lead you to live in the illusion that you have solved your problem, while you are only covering it up with tons of tolerance. But this tolerance leads to more frustration and more frustration leads to more unhappines and dissatisfaction. I am not saying that meditation and other such activities are not beneficial. However, if you REALLY want to solve your problem, a deeper approach is needed. Then you can integrate other practices, if you enjoy them.

Now that you know the cause of your heartbreaks, are you ready for change?

First of all, to get started you need a strong desire.You will free yourself from the toxic pain of your mother’s toxic inheritance; as a result, your behavior will improve:

  • You will attract the right woman and create a loving and balanced relationship
  • You will fix your current relationship, if you are already in one
  • You will create for your children a healthy environment to live and grow

Remember that no matter who you are and what you do in life, being in a loving relationships is fundamental to most people’s successful existence. Depriving yourself of a loving relationship has consequences in all areas of your life. You owe it to yourself to get rid of any toxic baggage that’s holding you back from creating successful relationships; and it all starts with awareness of the source of your troubles.

If you would like my personal support on identifying and eliminating the source of your heartbreaks click here to request a complementary coaching session.

About the author

Elena Perella is NOT a therapist, a psychologist or a psychiatrist; she is a coach who focuses on helping clients indentify the real reasons behind their suffering and problems. Born and raised on the beautiful Mediterranean island of Sardinia, Elena is passionate about what she does, and with good reason. Elena coached herself through a severe depression, eating disorders and domestic violence and her experience has led her on a journey of discovery of how to break out all of these challenges. As a result she created Sentidu Life Coaching to help people experience their own transformation and break free in the areas they feel stuck.

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