If our parents show dysfunctional behavior when we are children, we are victims. But no one says that we have to be victims our entire life. Something has to happen to wake us up. And once we wake up, it's our responsibility to step out of the victim role and become heros.
The Power of Women for a World Free of Violence
USA: Nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. In one year, this adds up to more than 10 million women and men (Source: NCADV).
Canada: In 2017, there were 59,236 child and youth victims (aged 17 and younger) of police-reported violence in Canada. Of these, 30% were victims of violence by a family member. (Source: Family Violence in Canada: a statistical profile, 2017).
Europe: Every year, approximately 3,500 deaths related to intimate partner violence occur in the 27 member states (excluding Croatia) of the European Union, according to a study from the DAPHNE EU programme.
Australia: Almost 1 in 4 (23%) women and 1 in 6 (16%) men have experienced emotional abuse from a current or previous partner since the age of 15 (ABS 2017b).
The measures taken against Domestic Violence until now haven't solved the problem. Laws, punishment, aids for the victims and healthy learning environments are not sufficient to guarantee a world free of violence. This is because they don't tackle the problem at the root cause.
We must understand domestic violence in a broader way, and especially in a deeper way, in order to understand the source of the internal factors that make people become either a victim or a perpetrator.
It's about women, women's power to change themselves, their children and the world around them! And it's about helping women understand the vital role they play.
Domestic Violence has consequences for physical health, mental health, behavior, relationships, financial health. It's a worldwide problem that affects us all, directly or indirectly. The reasons for dysfunctional behavior, and so for violence, do not lie in the circumstances in which a person lives, but in the visible or not visible absence of love that compromises the way he or she experiences reality internally. Often these experiences are unconscious, and this makes it very difficult to escape them via work on one's conscious belief system.
The solution to domestic violence is simple: learning to really love one-self, because someone who really loves him/herself doesn't need to suffer or to make others suffer.
person carries inside a toxic emotional inheritance inherited from
one’s family: toxic convictions and tendencies, childhood's
traumas, inner conflicts, toxic emotions. All this causes toxic
behavioral dynamics. By recognizing what we have inherited, we can
learn about the link between past and present. Then we can take the
right actions to detox, change toxic dynamics and manifest healthy
Women are the key factor in breaking toxic patterns. Pregnancy is the moment when the child's reality is shaped. If the woman has unresolved childhood's issues, this will affect the quality of the child's life. It is therefore fundamental that the woman, before or during pregnancy, take action to free herself from her family's toxic emotional inheritance and learn to really love herself.
I will help women through my seminars to find the right instruments to free themselves from their family's toxic emotional inheritance and teach them a new understanding of love. By bringing a new insight into human behavior, we can work together to give shape to healthy realities for us and our children.
I want to offer my seminars to as wide an audience as possible. Community organizations, companies, schools and universities, I would like to share my experiences and knowledge with you, to help create together a better world.
If you think that my seminar might be of interest to the people in your organization, your colleagues or your students, please get in touch.
Why does it work?
My project works because of three simple reasons:
It addresses the real cause of the problem.
It helps people see things as they really are and restore healthy communication within oneself and the outside world.
It works on prevention because it delivers the solution deep into the woman's internal reality, to help her solve her unresolved childhood issues, become free of her family's toxic emotional inheritance and learn to really love herself.
I was a victim of domestic violence and having coached myself through it, I came to a new understanding of the problem and so to a new solution. My family's toxic emotional inheritance -my mother and my grandmother were victims- was the internal factor that allowed a violent man into my life. My ex-partner was once a child victim of a violent mother and teacher, who added fuel to what he was already suffering. We both carried around inside us an inheritance made of traumas, a sense of unworthiness, lack of self-love, toxic convictions that made us re-produce the same experience that our parents and relatives and care givers went through. Therefore we gave shape to a toxic relationship.
During my career I studied and worked in the field of human behavior. I achieved a Master's degree in Latin American Studies with orientation in Literature and Cultural Anthropology. Both studies have been fundamental for my understanding of what is known and what is still not known about human behavior. I did field research in Peru on the political violence that affected the indigenous women and children during the civil war and listened to the perpetrators to understand their reasons. I worked in Guatemala on a project for children in poor environment. I worked in The Netherlands in the refugee sector and for the socio-cultural integration of foreigners. The theme of violence and dysfunctional behavior was recurrent in this work, playing an important and destructive role in the lives of the people I spoke to. So both personally and through my studies and work, I have come to understand the need for a new turn in how we understand and treat domestic violence.